I turned 29 in March, and as I method the final yr of a decade, I can’t assist however to look again on what a tumultuous 9 years the twenties have been. I bear in mind being so self-conscious I actually simply wished to soften into the partitions of highschool or faculty. Now, I understand that this calmness inside me is actually me simply being fairly dang comfy in my very own pores and skin. And it feels so darn good.
So, with that being mentioned, I’ve bestowed 29 items of advices I’d love to offer to 19 or 20-year-old me. Do you will have something so as to add, or that you just want you might have mentioned?
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- The issues folks say about you behind your again are none of your enterprise.
- You don’t need to ‘transfer on’ from grief or from unhappy issues, however you’ll be able to transfer ahead with them.
- Don’t apologize for the way you are feeling.
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4. It isn’t your accountability to ‘repair’ and even ‘assist’ different folks with their problems- if they’re grown, fully-functioning and unbiased adults, that’s their job.
5. Absolutely the huge of the time, folks’s reactions, emotions, actions, insecurities and many others. don’t have anything to do with you.
6. It’s completely okay to need issues.
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7. Don’t put strain on your self that you’d by no means placed on different folks.
8. It’s okay to chop poisonous folks out, even when they’re blood associated and even when they’ve been lifelong mates. You don’t owe anybody a proof both.
9. Diets and weight-reduction plan tradition don’t work and they aren’t wholesome.
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10. Weight and dimension shouldn’t have any correlation with self-worth, success, attractiveness or desirability.
11. Confidence and kindness are probably the most engaging traits
12. Everybody wants a wholesome dose of remedy.
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13. Educating will get simpler and higher.
14. Recognition is overrated.
15. Curly hair is cool.
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16. Study to set boundaries.
17. Don’t dwell a lot on belongings you can’t change.
18. Personal who you might be.
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19. Put on sunscreen, at all times.
20. Additionally, put on a hat in the summertime.
21. Being Busy =/= Success.
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22. Respect every thing your physique is able to doing.
23. By no means cease advocating for your self and for others who want you to do it for them.
24. Hold working in your French. It’s going to take you locations.
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25. Put these screens away. You gained’t remorse it.
26. Study some private finance expertise and stick with a price range. That is so tough however will probably be value it ultimately. (Let go of the disgrace associated to having difficulties with cash!)
27. There’s a lot to be mentioned to have a spot that’s yours, full of issues which are yours.
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28. You might be your harshest critic.
29. Do what you need and fuck the remainder.
Right here’s the final yr of the 20’s.
Do any of my older and wiser readers have any recommendation they’d love to offer their twenty-something-selves?
Bisous,
Dana